這是一位留英回國(guó)的創(chuàng)業(yè)明達(dá)（筆名）女士所著作品，書中深入淺出地闡述了‘幸?！鞘裁?？并帶您去尋找幸福！明達(dá)女士在國(guó)外留學(xué)工作了十幾年，去過很多國(guó)家，以她自身的經(jīng)歷、艱辛與感悟撰寫了這部作品。
她曾說過現(xiàn)在的孩子不讀書，不喜歡讀書，這是一個(gè)很大的損失，不僅是對(duì)社會(huì)更是對(duì)自己。明達(dá)女士在新加坡學(xué)習(xí)時(shí)，曾經(jīng)讀過一層圖書館的書籍，可見她淵博的知識(shí)面與深厚的各領(lǐng)域功底。
本頭條從今日起，將以中英文形式，連載轉(zhuǎn)發(fā)明達(dá)女士的文章《了然自我》，帶領(lǐng)廣大讀者走近明達(dá)女士的這本書中，去探索你生命的價(jià)值；陪伴你去找到幸福的；向你的人生目標(biāo)前進(jìn)……
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《了然自我》
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2. 用你的心去定義“幸?！?nbsp;
去探尋你的內(nèi)部需求？用內(nèi)心去問和回答自己下列問題：
為什么我不快樂？
對(duì)你來說此刻什么是重要的？
什么事情是你最期望去做或最期望達(dá)到一定程度？
你想達(dá)到什么程度？
什么事情阻止你去獲得你想要的
我需要什么條件去獲 得我想要的？
我有什么條件和我不具備什么條件？
是否有其他可取代的方式能幫我獲得我想要的？
我希望多久能實(shí)現(xiàn)它？我的方法是否可行？為什么可行？為什么不可行？
我感到幸福嗎或至少我感到輕松了吧？
我自己的幸福是什么？
我的幸福是 ————————
3.幸福在你心中
大多數(shù)人問：“我怎樣才能追求到自己的幸福？” 為什么在生活中我從來沒有過幸福的感覺？” “我一生都在尋找幸福，可我沒有找到?！?/p>
”幸福在你心中幸福不在那兒。幸福沒有藏在哪兒。幸福是在你心中。亞里士多德（公元前384年-公元前322年）指出幸福的獲得靠是你自己。
你不能創(chuàng)造幸福。你一直在找但就在你的心中。當(dāng)父母為你準(zhǔn)備了晚餐或是一直在等你回家時(shí)，你會(huì)感到幸福；當(dāng)你的孩子變得成熟時(shí)，你能感到驕傲。現(xiàn)在你知道幸福來源于你的內(nèi)心，來源于你對(duì)生活中一切事物的態(tài)度。
2. Using your own scale in your heart to define “happiness” – to find your inner demand
Using your heart to ask yourself and answer the following questions:
Why am I not happy?
What things are important for me at the moment?
Which thing do I expect more to be done or to be achieved at the certain level?
Which level do I want to achieve?
What things stop me to achieve what I want?
What conditions do I need to achieve what I want?
What conditions do I have and what do I have not?
Any alternative way can help me to achieve what I want?
How long time do I expect to achieve it? Is it feasible? Why is it feasible? Why is it not feasible?
Do I feel happy now or at least do I feel kind of relief?
What is my own happiness?
My happiness is
3. You cannot find happiness, but you can create happiness yourself
Most people asked, “How can I pursue my happiness in my life?” “Why I never find my happiness in my life?” “I have been looking for happiness in my whole life, but I could not find it.”
” You cannot find happiness, but you can create happiness yourself.
Happiness is not there and waiting for you. Happiness is not hiding anywhere you miss. Happiness is created by yourself. Aristole (384BC-322BC) posits that happiness depends upon ourselves.
Happiness does not exist before you create it. What you are looking for is nothing and something which does not exist. However, you can create your happiness. You can put smile in your face. You can feel love when your partner prepared the dinner and was waiting for you. You can feel pride when your child is becoming more mature. Now you know happiness is from inner you and is from your attitude to everything in your life.
作者：明達(dá)
